Community Building

­­­­Learning How to Build a Community…………..

It is our opinion, that a critical imbalance on the Oregon Coast of food demand and food supply whenever we have the 9.0 Earthquake and Tsunami.  

When the Big One does come, you had a choice to be a Grower, a Hoarder or a Detainee of the Homeland Security Dept.

Regardless of how much food you hoard, there is a limit.

We have Education and Research Center in Lincoln City that experiment with Sustainable Growing Techniques, Permaculture, Off the Grid techniques using existing waste material to solve our food production challenges on the coast.

Research Centers are a Living and Learning Laboratory for Food, Water, Energy, Shelter and Community Building.

Why have plenty of Food, Energy, and Water if you are living in a community that cannot work and live together?

The first step we do to build a community at the Sustainable Center, is to determine a person’s way of working.  We have identified nine (9) DNA ways of working

We know there is a DNA way of working by looking at identical twins separated at birth.  Jim Lewis and Jim Springer were identical twins raised apart from the age of 4 weeks. When the twins were finally reunited at the age of 39 in 1979, they discovered they both suffered from tension headaches, were prone to nail biting, smoked Salem cigarettes, drove the same type of car and even vacationed at the same beach in Florida.

The culprit for the odd similarities? …….  Genes.

Genes can help explain why someone is religious or not, brainy or not, and even whether they’re likely to develop gum disease, one psychologist explains.

Such broad-ranging genetic effects first came to light in a landmark study — Minnesota Twin Family Study — conducted from 1979 to 1999, which followed identical and fraternal twins who were separated at an early age. “We were surprised by certain behaviors that showed a genetic influence, such as religiosity and social attitudes,” said Nancy Segal, an evolutionary psychologist at California State University, Fullerton, who was part of the study for nine years. “Those surprised us, because we thought those certainly must come from the family environment,”

Born together, raised apart

Researchers at the University of Minnesota, led by Thomas Bouchard, launched the landmark study in 1979. Over the course of 20 years, they studied 137 pairs of twins — 81 pairs of identical twins (twins who developed from one egg that split in two), and 56 pairs of fraternal twins (twins who developed from two eggs fertilized by two different sperm).

The Jim twins were probably the most famous set of twins involved in the study, but other pairs were equally fascinating. One pair of female twins in the study were separated from each other at 5 months old, and weren’t reunited until age 78, making them the world’s longest separated pair in Guinness World Records.

The Minnesota study resulted in more than 170 individual studies focusing on different medical and psychological characteristics.  In one study, the researchers took photographs of the twins, and found that identical twins would stand the same way, while fraternal twins had different postures.

Another study of four pairs of twins found that genetics had a stronger influence on sexual orientation in male twins than in female twins. A recent study in Sweden of 4,000 pairs of twins has replicated these findings, Segal said.

Nature vs. nurture

A 1986 study that was part of the larger Minnesota study found that genetics plays a larger role on personality than previously thought. Environment affected personality when twins were raised apart, but not when they were raised together, the study suggested.

Reporter Daniel Goleman wrote in The New York Times at the time that genetic makeup was more influential on personality than child rearing.

“We never said family environment didn’t matter,” Segal said. “We just made the point that environment works in ways we hadn’t expected.”

Another study, commissioned by the editor of the journal Science, looked at genetics and IQ. The Minnesota researchers found that about 70 percent of IQ variation across the twin population was due to genetic differences among people, and 30 percent was due to environmental differences.   Moreover, a study in 1990 found that genetics account for 50 percent of the religiosity among the population — in other words, both identical twins raised apart were more likely to be religious or to be not religious, compared with unrelated individuals.

Second Step is to  Eliminate the “Ants”

We do this by wearing a No Complaint Bracelet. The bracelet is a powerful tool to remind you when you are complaining.

Here are the rules:

• Place the bracelet on your left wrist every morning.
• Every time when you catch yourself complaining, gossiping or criticizing, either:
  • Move the bracelet to the other wrist

or

• Snap yourself with the bracelet and do not move the bracelet.
• If you hear someone else who is wearing a bracelet complain, you may point out their need to switch the bracelet to the other wrist; BUT, if you’re going to do this, you must move your bracelet first because you are criticizing another.
• Keep moving or snapping your bracelet until you can keep it on the left wrist 21 consecutive s without a snap or move. Stay with it. It may take many months. Social Scientists says it takes 21 days to form a new habit.  Complaining is a habit.

 How can I get someone else to stop complaining?

 As you begin to transform by not complaining, you will be an example of positive living and this will inspire all around you. Moreover, because you’re not participating in the complaining, others will be far less likely to complaining to you.

 How do I know if I’m complaining?

 We define complaining as “to express pain, grief, or discontent with someone who cannot do anything about your complaint.”

Problems can be solved.  When you talk with the person that causes you a problem, you are not complaining.

A simple test is, if you can make this statement, “When you do________________ it makes me feel ______________ because _____________.”

When you are talking and thinking with people who cannot solve your problem, you are attracting more pain, grief and discontent.

If I think a complaint but don’t speak it do I have to move my bracelet? 
No, only if you speak a complaint aloud should you move your bracelet to the other wrist.

You will find that the more you stop articulating your complaints, the less complaining thoughts you will have.

How can we affect positive change without complaining?

Complaining spreads negative.  You cannot create a positive outcome with negative.  You create positive by acting out the desires of your heart.  Getting in touch with the desires of your heart, which is another set of experiences that is described below.

Martin Luther King, Jr. when he was in Washington, DC and said:

1. America has written the them a check and it has come back “Insufficient funds.”
2. He shared his dream that all children would live and play in harmony and peace.

Which do you remember?

Mother Teresa said she would not attend a rally Against War, but she would attend a rally For Peace.

Isn’t blowing off steam by complaining healthy?

No, for example studies have shown that complaining about one’s health actually tends to make a person’s health worse, not better.

How will not complaining help me?

The QUALITY of your life is determined by your EQ.  Daniel Goleman, in his best-selling book “Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ” states that:

He found that people with high EQs tend to be more successful in life than those with lower EQs, even if their IQs are the same.

As you better manage your EQ, the quality of your life will increase. You’ll have the friends you want, the money you want, and the job you want. You’ll be accepted.

Never Attack Anybody’s Personhood – This includes you.  You are not to call yourself names.  You are not stupid, dumb or silly.  Likewise, you are not to call anybody else names or a derogatory nickname.  If you violate this key in the presence of the Center’s Leadership or a member of the Community, there will be consequences.

Gossip is not tolerated – Gossip is a form of complaining about another person behind their back. They are what we call ANTS -Automatic Negative Thoughts.

Thoughts are “Automatic” – they just happen.  Do not try to stop them, but you do not have to say them out loud.

Thoughts are not always correct and may not always be “true.”

Thoughts “LIE”- You do not have to speak every thought.

Feelings (thoughts) are like waves, they just keep coming.

“A person with a higher Emotional Intelligence knows which wave to surf.”

Next, Understand your Talents, Attributes and Gifts (TAGs)

The Gallup’s Poll organization did research on 198,000 employees in almost 8000 business units.

Employees who strongly agreed that they had a chance to do what they do best every day claimed fewer sick days, filed fewer workers’ compensation claims, and had fewer accidents while on the job.

According to the Gallup, “Somebody in a low-grade job, such as a janitor, is nearly four times as likely to have a heart attack as the executive, even if, the executive is fat, hypertensive or a smoker, than, the janitor who is thin, non-smoking, and has low-blood pressure.”  This means that the health of a person is closely linked to how much prestige is accorded their role.  In other words –Your heart is at the mercy of your pay slip!

If you want better health, longer life, better relationships or financial freedom – understand and use your TAGs. An individual does not have to be wealth to have a sense of control and self-confidence. Wealth and poverty are a state of the mind. If you do not understand and how to use your TAGs, you will never have a sense of control over your life.

You must first understand which of the TAGs are yours.  Each person is born with certain TAGs.  There are 28  TAGs.  These TAGs were not learned – you were born with them and depending on how you were mentored, depends on how well they were developed.

A study found that happiness and well-being had a 50 percent genetic influence.

In another study, researchers surveyed the separated twins about how close they felt to their newfound sibling. Among identical twins, 80 percent of those surveyed reported feeling closer and more familiar with their twin than they did to their best friends, suggesting a strong genetic component in the bond between identical twins.

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Understand your Survival Instruct

Fight – Flight or Freeze – the Amygdala is part of the brain that is wired for your survival.   It is that part of the brain which determines, (when you are in a conflict situation, real or imaginary) you will “Fight” “Flight” or “Freeze.”

The better you understand your Amygdala response, the easier for you to be able to resolve conflict situations faster.  Conflicts will occur in a community.

To understand the Survival Instructs one must look to the animal kingdom.  Animals have three way of survival and to ultimately increase their chances to reproduction.  Different type of animals use different methods.  Mankind uses the same three methods.  All methods work.

The three are:

1.     Self-Preservation (Me) ….. The Bear, Snake, Leopard, Tiger etc

The Self-Preservation Survival Instinct is driven by the ongoing search for survival and well-being. Believing in that alone is the best way. Anything that could possibly damage, endanger, or exploit the self is of concern. The focus of attention of Self-Pres person is on the self and their world. The primary desire is for security, which is manifested by continual perceived quest for well-being and for the essential needs of life, such as food, comfort, safety, protection, and resources.

2.     Relationship (You & Me) ….. The Eagle, Wolfs, Angle Fish, Penguins

The Relationship Survival Instinct is driven by the chance of survival is better is you have someone to watch your back.  This Instinct is driven by the ongoing search for intimacy and one-on-one relationships. The focus of attention is on the beloved and intimate world. The drive is especially representative of the masculine and feminine energies and the issues of strength and beauty, which are the very qualities that determine the strongest and most desirable of mates. The primary desire is for a mate, which is manifested by a perceived need for wholeness, affinity, and closeness in a continual search for the other half.

3.   Hierarchy (All Of Us) ….. Deer, Elks, Chickens, Elephants etc

The Hierarchy Survival Instinct is driven by the ongoing search for groups and community, akin to the herd instinct in animals, where there is safety and security in numbers. The focus of attention is on the group and the larger world. The primary desire is for groups, which is manifested by a perceived need for people, recognition, popularity, honor, status, and social acceptance to continue the their survival.

The combination of these three different ways gives 756 different paths to Financial Freedom, and you have one of these paths.

Once you find your path, you will find that you are probably missing some pieces to become Financially Free.  You have two options to overcome these missing parts.Increase your EQ (emotional intelligence)

Increase you EQ  (emotional intelligence)

It is interesting that some people with a IQ of 150 are not doing very well in “life”. They are not getting promotions, unable to get along with people, and are abrasive, and annoying.

Yet other people with lower IQs were soaring ahead.

 Why the difference?

 The difference is Emotional Quotient (EQ)

Emotional Quotient (EQ) measures your capability, capacity or the ability to manage your emotions. Like Intelligence Quotient (IQ), Emotional Quotient (EQ) is an abstract term that is usually identified by testing.

The term of EQ was used first time by E. L. Thorndike  at Columbia University, in 1920. He wanted to use it to understand and manage emotions of other people. Psychologists, like John Mayer, PhD, a University of New Hampshire psychologist, differentiates EQ from emotional knowledge. He believes that EQ tests can measure your cognitive abilities the same as the classic IQ tests do.

Psychologists like Howard Gardner, Professor of Cognition and Education at the Harvard Graduate School of Education, believe that traditional types of intelligence have failed to fully explain phenomenon of your cognitive abilities. Daniel Goldman who popularized “EQ” in 1995, with his best-selling book, “Emotional Intelligence,” knew there is something more than IQ needed for success in life.

Can EQ be tested?

Different explanations and writings prove that EQ tests measures your cognitive process.

It tests how do you integrate thoughts and feelings to make critical decisions?

What cognitive abilities you have?

What combination of understandable abilities and characteristics you show?

Can IQ be increased?   No

Can EQ be increased?  Yes

If you do not believe EQ is real, try the following and monitor your results..

Success is 20% IQ and 80% EQ

Focus on What Brings you Happiness

Starts with completing a check would bring you happiness.

It starts when you receive a Money-Email from the Bank of the UnEnding Abundance.

Each Money-Email will detail how much “virtual” money has been deposited into your “virtual” bank account.

Of course, this will not be “real” money, but think about it as real money, get as excited as if you were receiving REAL money!!   If you cannot do it with “virtual” money, you will never do it with real money.

To raise your EQ, you must master the Law of Attraction. You will receive larger and larger amounts of “virtual” money over the weeks.  The first email is for a $1000 but they will be ever increasing.

Make it easy on yourself by preparing a list of things you would buy if money were no object.

Don’t put limits on your choices, think BIG.  Attracting what you desire into your life comes from a combination of getting clear on what it is that you “really” want, and FEEL a passion or inspiration of how you will enjoy that thing in your life.  What brings you joy!!

Understand that the more you desire something and know that it can be yours, and feel the feeling, the faster you allow it to be attracted into your life.

Writing the check helps you focus on not only the money coming in, but the money going out – the continual flow of abundance that you are tapping into.

You must spend at least 20 seconds thinking about what the desires of your heart are as you write a check for the item.

Spend at least 20 seconds

If you do not spend at least 20 seconds on how you think and feel about each purchase, you are wasting your time.

The objective is for you to “spend” the money before the next money comes to buy whatever your heart desires.  The money comes every 2-4 days.

Buy whatever brings you happiness.  Use your money in whatever way brings joy to your heart.   Beyond your hearts desires, happiness and joy, there are no guidelines.

As well as having a lot of fun spending this money, you will also attract more money in the REAL world.

To receive maximum benefit, try to spend something each and every day.  The goal is for the money to be spent by the time the next money arrives.

You have to spend the money

Do not let it sit in a bank doing nothing – spend it!  You are changing your prosperity consciousness forever!

Be open to RECEIVE more

It is about ACCEPTING more and knowing you DESERVE more.  It is about RELEASING and letting that money flow out again. So please, spend, spend, spend on yourself during the game – and of course ENJOY!

Does EQ (emotional intelligence) really matter?  Your emotional intelligence is your key to Financial Freedom.

The research shows that 90% of top performers are also high in emotional intelligence. On the flip side, just 20% of bottom performers are high in emotional intelligence. You can be a top performer without emotional intelligence, but the chances are slim.

The research shows that people with a high degree of emotional intelligence make more money—an average of $29,000 more per year than people with a low degree of emotional intelligence. The link between emotional intelligence and earnings is so direct that every point increase in emotional intelligence adds $1,300 to an annual salary. These findings hold true for people in all industries, at all levels, in every region of the world. We haven’t yet been able to find a job in which performance and pay aren’t tied closely to emotional intelligence.

 EQ (Emotional Intelligence) Can Be Developed

The communication between your emotional and rational “brains” is the physical source of emotional intelligence. The pathway for emotional intelligence starts in the brain, at the spinal cord. Your primary senses enter there and must travel to the front of your brain before you can think rationally about your experience. However, first they travel through the limbic system, the place where emotions are generated. So, we have an emotional reaction to events before our rational mind is able to engage. Emotional intelligence requires effective communication between the rational and emotional centers of the brain.

Emotional intelligence is a balance between the rational and motional brain.

“Plasticity” is the term neurologists use to describe the brain’s ability to change. Your brain grows new connections as you learn new skills. The change is gradual, as your brain cells develop new connections to speed the efficiency of new skills acquired.

Using strategies to increase your emotional intelligence allows the billions of microscopic neurons lining the road between the rational and emotional centers of your brain to branch off small “arms” (much like a tree) to reach out to the other cells. A single cell can grow 15,000 connections with its neighbors. This chain reaction of growth ensures it’s easier to kick this new behavior into action in the future. Once you train your brain by repeatedly using new emotional intelligence strategies, emotionally intelligent behaviors become habits.

Integrating a balance between the rational and motional brain is not an overnight process. The research shows that people into a six-month process for new managers world-wide, the FedEx Express team at their Global Learning Institute is building the skills and expertise for people-first leadership had the following results:

The program is yielding an 8-11% increase in leadership competencies, with over half the participants experiencing very large (10-50%) improvements in certain key emotional intelligence skills and leadership outcomes:  72% of the program participants experience very large increases in decision making; 60% in Quality of Life, and 58% show major improvements in Influence.

Happiness – Gratitude fosters happiness. It makes it easier to cope with stress. trauma. You will learn how to have a positive perspective which will allows you to encounter personal adversity like loss or illness and stay happy.

Random acts of kindness fosters happiness.  Studies shows that engaging in a random act of kindness — even if you’re told by a researcher to do so — improves your happiness level.  This will be demonstrated to you.

 Increase Your Success Rate – By doubling your failure rate. Got an idea? Try it. If it fails, you learned something.

At the Center’s Laboratory, since all the material, tools and money is furnished, what do you have to lose?

“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”  ― Thomas A. Edison

Finding Joy – At the Center, you will be encouraged to focus on what makes you happy and bring your joy.

You will be encouraged to focus on the “Desires of Your Heart” and enjoy the path to obtain them.

We believe the means does NOT justify the end.  There is no end to life’s journey, only the journey, at the Center you will learn to enjoy the journey.

The Power of Two – Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. For if either of them falls, the other one will lift up their companion and you both can enjoy a life time partnership.